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When we think of aging, we think grey hair, crow's feet, and body parts heading south. We don't, somehow, necessarily imagine that our genitals join in with all the maturing fun. But guess what? Our vaginas age just like the rest of our body.
If you're not the kind of woman who regularly examines herself south of the border, you might not realize that, just like the rest of your body, your vagina is getting older. It's not that your vagina is celebrating your exact birthday. After all, "your body doesn't know that the calendar is changing," says Alyssa Dweck , MD, an assistant clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at the Ichan School of Medicine at Mount Sinai in New York and a practicing gynecologist in Westchester County. But genitals undoubtedly change as time goes on, and knowing these changes are totally normal—and that the unpleasant ones can often be managed—at least offers a little comfort. Of course, every woman—and every vagina—is different.
These days, we look at our vaginas — or more correctly, vulvas — much more than women or men used to. And as we get older or after childbirth, many of us are shocked to find the area has changed. First things first. Just as everyone has a different body shape, eye colour, or preference for sexual partner, there is also enormous variation in vaginas and vulvas, regardless of age.